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Hello 2025

My 2025 has not started with a good start. Tapi tak apa lah, sebab I yang decided this. Masa tukar company, masa decide nak terima jawatan ni. Memang dari mula rasa tak best dah. Walhal masa tu gaji naik banyak, tapi entah kenapa rasa tak happy. Dari masa interview ada dapat vibes yang tak best, sampai lah terima offer letter dan sampai lah mula kerja ada rasa tak syiok tu. 

Rupa-rupanya, my gut feeling was right. Allah tunjukkan banyak red flags, cuma I bertahan sebab red flags ni I cakap "maybe i was overthinking, maybe i yang tak bersyukur, maybe i yang fikir bukan2 sangat'. Tapi end up, betul. This place IS A RED FLAG. Banyak yang keluar (turnover), of course it is a red flag. Dan selepas probation, dan selepas konon-kononnya jadi Manager. I pun decided to keluar from this toxicity.

Tapi apa yang I nak conclude ialah:-

1) Kalau boleh I nak journal everyday, supaya terjamin my mental health sebab kita dah lepaskan apa yang kita nak.

2) Never downgrade your value, kalau bos nak tambah kerja, MESTI kena ada tambahan gaji. No such thing as berkorban untuk majikan/syarikat because they are the same to you. KERJA IS KERJA. KNOWS YOUR VALUE. 

3) BERKIRA dengan bos. Lagi2 bos yang berkira. Sebab u tak berkira pun dia berkira. Jadi, berkira jelah dengan bos, sebab mereka semua memang profit base. Work is work. Remember this.

4) Apa-apa mesti kena ada black & white dulu, baru buat kerja. Tak ada B&W, u don't have proof. So kena jadi bijak.

5) Berhadapan dengan bos-bos yang narcissist, the best way if for you to diam dan buat bodoh. That is the best way to deal with this kind of people. Jangan give apa yang diorang nak. Melenting, melawan, cakap apa2 adalah cara yang mereka nak kita buat. Jadi, don't give it to them.

6) Majikan yang banyak bermain sentimen agama. Berhati2 lah, most likely they will use it for theor own sake. Agama islam terletak pada agama islam tu sendiri. Pada Quran & Hadis. Bukan terletak pada practioner dia, apatah lagi yang menunggang agama untuk mencapai hasrat sendiri. Semoga, Allah jauhkan dengan orang2 macam ni dan semoga I sendiri dijauhkan dari jadi macam ni. Amin!

I banyak belajar, and most of the things I belajar ialah from the hard way. Tak ada warning, tak ada apa, terus melaluinya dengan keras tapi that is what makes me a better person today. Dan kena sentiasa INGAT. FAMILY IS ON TOP OF THE LIST. Kawan kerja, kerja, majikan. Benda tu memang terhad pada kerja saja. 

Never ever put work above work. Dan kalau ada majikan yang lebihkan kerja melebihi keluarga dia sendiri. Itu pun sign of redflag juga. All in all, memang I dah decide nak stop di sini lama dah. Cuma, now is the right timing. Kerja pun dah siap dan berjalan. Tugas I dah selesai. Tutup satu buku, buka buku lain. Now lessa go!

Warm regards,

FNMJ









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